Broken foot notes: on love

On Love...the unconditional Valentine lover
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On Love

What a strange and wonderful thing love is. We spend our lives searching for love ~ this ideal we carry around in our hearts, minds and souls. And we use it as some kind of guidepost against which to measure the quality or quantity of our loving experiences. And if it doesn't measure up, or it's too scary for us, we either don't proceed, or love in a half hearted fearful way. One thing's for sure - love doesn't come in half measures. If you're half way across, you better just keep walking in cases you get side swiped!

Giving it away only causes it to spread and grow - the magic pudding as a metophor of love.

Holding on to it ony causes it to flee. It can imprison us.

Love has nothing to do with agreement or even compatibility. Real love is unconditional and accepting. It often exists irrespective of whether we desire to feel it or not, in effect "duty binding" us. Where love doesn't exist, it fails to find root and grow ~ even after we have sowed what we believe to be fertile ground into which we have planted our seeds of desire.

I will always love Paul. I don't get on with him. He stresses me no end, and is bad for my health and well being. But I know that in time we will come to appreciate the positive aspects of one and other. And eventually both of us will grow whilst learning this particular love lesson. That doesn't mean I want to be with him. It just means that love is not something that ceases just because it doesn't fit in with 21st century " me" think, or it doesn't suit our life schedule. And self centred thinking is always "me" think ~ it's indicative of our place in time and space; increasingly more rational, less vital, less forgiving, more rigid, more ego centic, less tolerant, less magical.

I love my mum, but I don't want to live with her.

I love my daughter but she drives me insane somethimes.

I love my friends, but that doesn't mean we can put up with one aother 24/7.

Thus exists this fine line between love and hate....the double edged sword.

I especially love my soul mate - Shelter in my storm. Light in the darkness. Music to soothe the pain of my aching soul and fragmented heart. Friends forever. Gay Jewish lover. Thankyou for you. x

There are many different types of love and it is impossible to re-create the tone of the relationships we have with another person. So in loving, none of us are islands. Love is the nature of the interaction between us, and necessarily transforms as we ourslves form and transform.

Will sent me this beautiful quote which caused me to ponder the nature of love and how it occupies us for our entire lives.

Carrie Bradshaw in the final scene of Sex and the City:

"Later that day I got to thinking about relationships.
There are those that open you up to something new and exotic,
those that are old and familiar,
those that bring up lots of questions,
those that bring you somewhere unexpected,
those that bring you far from where you started,
and those that bring you back.
But the most exciting, challenging and significant relationship of all is the one you have with yourself.
And if you find someone to love the you you love, well, that's just fabulous".